Married, attached, or open
Discreet dating, minus the leaks
Whether it's an affair or an open marriage you've both agreed to, the risks are the same: a card statement, a notification on a lock screen, a breach. We compare the sites built for married people on what they expose, what they cost and what regulators found, and we don't judge why you're here.
What we compare, and how
What it exposes
Past breaches, what the site keeps after you delete, how billing appears, and how much a profile reveals to other members.
Real people
Regulator findings and the sites' own terms on fake, "engager" or staff-run profiles. This market has a documented history of both.
Cost and billing
Credits versus subscriptions, who pays (often only men), auto-renewal and refunds, from the sites' own pages and independent reviews.
Built for consent or secrecy
Whether the site is designed for affairs or for couples opening up together. Both are legal; they need different tools.
Who is there
Published research and filings only. A site's "millions of members" is quoted as a claim, never as a fact.
Five sites, side by side
Victoria Milan and Ashley Madison are built for affairs. Feeld and OkCupid suit couples who are opening their relationship together and want to say so on their profile. AdultFriendFinder sits in between. Read the Privacy record column first: on these sites it matters more than the price.
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| Platform | Best for | Cost | Verification | Privacy record | Bots & regulators | Links |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|---|
 Victoria MilanSite for married and attached people | Married or attached people who want an affair site with neutral billing and photo blurring built in. | Premium ~$60–90/mo | Optional photo check; pre-moderation | No breach found; neutral billing | No regulator action found | |
 Ashley MadisonSite for discreet, often married, dating | Married men and women who want the best-known affair site and will pay per conversation. | Women free; men buy credits | Few checks | 2015 breach: 36M users | FTC: fake "engager" profiles | |
 FeeldApp for open, kinky and non-monogamous dating | Couples opening their marriage together, or someone whose partner knows. Link profiles and say so up front. | Free; Majestic $29.99/30 days | Optional photo verification | No major breach found | No regulator action found | |
 OkCupidQuestionnaire-matching dating app | Open or non-monogamous couples who want a mainstream app with a lot of people on it. | Free; paid varies | Selfie prompts (Match Group) | Jan 2026 incident (Match Group) | FTC case vs. owner (Match.com) | |
 AdultFriendFinderAdult hookup site | Married or attached people after casual sex rather than an ongoing affair, and swinging couples. | Gold ~$25/mo; less yearly | Few checks | 2016 breach: ~412M accounts | No regulator action found |
Facts last checked November 2026. Each platform's review page lists the sources.
Three numbers worth knowing
36M Ashley Madison accounts were exposed in the 2015 breach, including users who had paid $19 for a "Full Delete".
28,417 fake "engager" profiles of women were created on Ashley Madison in 2014 alone, according to the FTC's complaint.
412M accounts were exposed in the 2016 FriendFinder Networks breach, including ones users had deleted.
Sources: FTC settlement (2016), FTC v. Ruby Corp. complaint, CSO (2016). Read how to keep an affair site off your statement and out of a breach.